Gays are destroying the Sanctity of Marriage. Really?!

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“Same-sex marriage would threaten the institution of marriage.” That’s one of the many arguments against it, but still when you read it it’s easy to notice there’s something not right about that argument.

I mean you would think all these same arguments have been used before, especially for interracial marriage:

“1) First, judges claimed that marriage belonged under the control of the states rather than the federal government.

2) Second, they began to define and label all interracial relationships (even longstanding, deeply committed ones) as illicit sex rather than marriage.

3) Third, they insisted that interracial marriage was contrary to God’s will, and

4) Fourth, they declared, over and over again, that interracial marriage was somehow “unnatural.”

The purity of public morals,” the court declared, “the moral and physical development of both races….require that they should be kept distinct and separate… that connections and alliances so unnatural that God and nature seem to forbid them, should be prohibited by positive law, and be subject to no evasion. Declaration from the Supreme Court of Virginia used to invalidate a marriage between a black man and a white woman in 1878

5) They [Supreme Court Judges] insisted that because miscegenation laws punished both the black and white partners to an interracial marriage, they affected blacks and whites “equally.”

The rhetoric is silly and the only thing that it uses is create fear among ignorant people. “The gays are destroying the families” that’s a popular one too, but on this day and age where you don’t even need to have sex in order to have children, don’t believe me, ask Nadya Suleman! Family as we know it, composed by one dad, mom and from one to three children is changing. It’s always been changing because of natural disasters or wars were families are sadly torn apart or because of divorce. If divorces don’t destroy the traditional nuclear family, then spank me really hard and call me Judy. It is estimated that between 40 percent and50 percent of first marriages end up in divorce.

It is also rather childish to claim that there’s any sanctity in a marriage now-a-days, of course there are millions if not billions of happily wed couples, but then there also some like Britney Spears that sometimes it is just a game. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a big Britney Spears’ fan and supporter, but pulling that getting married for 55 hours stunt and then getting divorce just for “fun” doesn’t really add any sanctity.

I also love the people who use the Bible to go against gay marriage, oh the Holly Book:

“Let’s try for a minute to take the religious conservatives at their word and define marriage as the Bible does. Shall we look to Abraham, the great patriarch, who slept with his servant when he discovered his beloved wife Sarah was infertile? Or to Jacob, who fathered children with four different women (two sisters and their servants)? Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon and the kings of Judah and Israel—all these fathers and heroes were polygamists. The New Testament model of marriage is hardly better. Jesus himself was single and preached an indifference to earthly attachments—especially family. The apostle Paul (also single) regarded marriage as an act of last resort for those unable to contain their animal lust. “It is better to marry than to burn with passion,” says the apostle, in one of the most lukewarm endorsements of a treasured institution ever uttered.”  Our Mutual Joy, by Lisa Miller Newsweek Magazine

Proponents of gay marriage are not asking for a religious ceremony, they ask for a civil ceremony recognized not only by their state, but by their country. All of those who keep using Jesus name or the Bible need I remind you what Jesus said when it comes to State rights:

“Tell us therefore, What think you? Is it lawful to give tribute to Caesar, or not? But Jesus perceived their wickedness, and said, Why tempt you me, you hypocrites? Show me the tribute money. And they brought to him a penny.  And he said to them, Whose is this image and superscription? They say to him, Caesar’s. Then said he to them, Render therefore to Caesar the things which are Caesar’s; and to God the things that are God’s. When they had heard these words, they marveled, and left him, and went their way.” Matthew 17:22

Correct me if I’m wrong, but in his on words this is something related to Ceasars’ not God.

“To which there are two obvious responses: First, while the Bible and Jesus say many important things about love and family, neither explicitly defines marriage as between one man and one woman. And second, as the examples above illustrate, no sensible modern person wants marriage—theirs or anyone else’s —to look in its particulars anything like what the Bible describes. “Marriage” in America refers to two separate things, a religious institution and a civil one, though it is most often enacted as a messy conflation of the two. As a civil institution, marriage offers practical benefits to both partners: contractual rights having to do with taxes; insurance; the care and custody of children; visitation rights; and inheritance. As a religious institution, marriage offers something else: a commitment of both partners before God to love, honor and cherish each other—in sickness and in health, for richer and poorer—in accordance with God’s will. In a religious marriage, two people promise to take care of each other, profoundly, the way they believe God cares for them.” Our Mutual Joy, by Lisa Miller Newsweek Magazine

Signs against Mormons for supporting Proposition 8

Other horrible arguments against gay marriage are that it will open up the table for poligamy. *cough, cough* correct me If I’m wrong, but wasn’t the Mormon Church pro Proposition 8 (the bill introduced in California to ban gay marriages)? Aren’t the Mormon’s known for poligamy? Want to take the religious context out of the equation, then fine:

“Alan and Eric let me make the sleeping arrangements, and I worked to make sure I spent time with both of them. To all outward appearances we were a married couple with a male friend living with us. While some found it awkward when the three of us occasionally attended parties and such together, very few people attempted to pry. To avoid legal troubles, I remained legally married to Alan, and we all decided a larger house was in order when we met Leslie.

Fast forward to today, and our family is now composed of Alan, Eric, Leslie, Amber, and myself, plus our children: Todd, Steve, Jennifer, Lisa, and Amber is currently pregnant. Eric and Leslie are legally married, and we’ve added a few rooms to the house. We have two family meetings a week, one of which is for adults only, both of which can get lively and loud. We’ve had our arguments over money, people monopolizing other people’s time, dealing with children’s issues, and so forth — like any other family — but we just have more voices in the discussion.” I have two husbands: A polygamist’s diary, By Kathleen Lewis MSNBC Today

What about the kids? Kids raised by two gay men or two lesbian women they are bound to screw up their kids by forcing that “lifestyle” on them. Again, correct me If I’m wrong but weren’t gays and lesbians (most of them anyways) raised by both their mom and dad? All of the ones I know were raised by both of their straight parents. A child needs love, protection and shelter while growing up, two loving parents or one for that matter regardless of “lifestyle” can provide it as good or even better than straight parents, after all there’s less judging.

“Gays are destroying our families,” is another argument against gay marriage, but how can people forget that gay men and women have families themselves? Gays do have parents, do have siblings, do have cousins, do have uncles and do have grandparents. Don’t you think that by forcing members of their families to be ashamed of their kids and to push them away that, that is not destroying families? What about the families that are destroyed because their gay sons and daughter have commited suicide? Gay teen suicides are four times that of heterosexual youth. (Note: this is information is based on a research done in 1993 numbers could be higher or lower today). How can parents cope with that? Why do parents have to come with terms with their child’s homosexuality once they are dead? We are all born knowing that we will have to bury our parents, we are ready for that, but we aren’t ready to bury our children.

Ellen Degeneres (right) and wife (?) Portia Di Rossi (left) on their Wedding Day

The last argument against gay marriage is that: “they will force their lifestyle on us and our children.” Wow! Really gays are just going to come and start making you make out with someone of your same gender? No one’s going to force anyone to do anything, gay men and women only want to be free and have the same rights as you do, that’s all. You will never have to witness a gay wedding, unless you are invited to one, which would probably make you pro-marriage in the first place; given that you know, you know – the gays!

Marriage (civil) is a right that everyone has and which you can’t deny. Majorities have no right to impose their will on under represented minorities and people who use the Bible to promote hatred and fear should know that God ordered us not to judge anyone, because only he can. Hopefully Proposition 8 will be abolished and gay marriage will be allowed in the State of California, and short after will be available in every state and in every country.

For a related post dealing with religion and gay marriage please click here. 

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